Happy Father’s* Day to everyone reading this who celebrates it.
These gendered holidays can be complex for those of us in queer families. Maybe we have complex relationships with our families of origin or maybe we are building families that the world doesn’t always reflect back at us. Families without Father’s in them sometimes make this holiday new, some ignore it all together, some families have more than one Father to celebrate.
So, if today isn’t a holiday for your family, I hope you have a lovely Sunday doing what your family does on Sundays.
And if you celebrate Father’s day, in the boxes that fit you or outside them all together:
Happy Father’s day to you.
Happy Father’s day to the gay Dads sharing this holiday together.
Happy Father’s day to Poly Dads who are celebrating with their family constellation.
Happy Father’s day to trans Dads.
Happy Father’s day to the queer Dads.
Happy Father’s day to the bi Dads, whether or not your family structure makes you feel invisible.
Happy Father’s day to gender queer parents who feel this holiday as their own.
Happy Baba’s day.
Happy Adas’s day.
Happy intentional parent’s day.
Happy Bubba’s day.
Happy Abba’s day.
Happy (whatever special perfect family title you use that works so well of you) day.
Happy Father’s day to cis Dad’s who parent beyond their expected gender roles.
Happy Father’s day to Dad’s who go by Mom.
Happy Father’s day to Dad’s who are doing an awesome job raising trans and queer kids.
Your families are grateful for how you parent, enjoy your day, we love you.